Therapy for Asian men who are tired of carrying Anxiety, Self-Doubt, and the Pressure to always have it together.
You don't have to navigate it alone. Together, we'll create a supportive, judgment-free space to quiet the inner critic, build lasting confidence, and reconnect with who you are beneath everyone else's expectations.
The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.
-Carl Jung
Trusted by Asian Men in California ★★★★★
"I was hesitant to start therapy because I wasn't sure anyone would really understand what I was dealing with. From the beginning, I felt like Randy got it. He understood the pressure I put on myself, the expectations I carried, and how difficult it was to talk about my struggles."
Daniel, age 28
Software Engineer
Former Client
"Randy has helped me immensely since I’ve been his client. He has helped me to understand and accept my thoughts and feelings, to see they are influenced by my culture and upbringing, and to work through how those experiences affect my current thoughts and decisions. He has helped in providing context, compassion, and perspective, which has allowed me to work through challenges and self-perceived obstacles as I navigate changes in my life."
Steve, age 33
Project Manager
Former Client
"Randy created a space where I felt comfortable being honest about things I had never talked about before. Over time, I've become more confident, less critical of myself, and more comfortable being who I am. Therapy has genuinely changed the way I relate to myself and the people around me"
Joseph, age 40
Teacher
Former Client
"As an Asian man, I often felt pressure to meet expectations and constantly questioned whether I was doing enough. Randy helped me make sense of where those feelings came from and build confidence that tied to my own needs and values. I now feel more secure in who I am and feel more fulfilled in my everyday life."
Kevin, age 24
Graduate Student
Former Client
"At the time, I was dealing with a lot of anxiety, adjusting to some big life changes, and repeating the same patterns without really understanding why. Talking with Randy has helped me better understand myself, and I honestly feel much more like myself again. I never thought I'd feel comfortable opening up to a therapist, but with Randy it happened naturally. He's easy to talk to, a great listener, and has a way of explaining things that just makes sense. It also meant a lot to work with someone who understood the cultural expectations and pressures of being Asian American. I never felt like I had to explain that part of myself, and his ability to recognize patterns has helped me see myself in ways I couldn't before."
Arthur, age 43
Healthcare Professional
Former Client
Imagine What Could Feel Different
Become More Confident and Secure in Who You Are🌸
Imagine trusting yourself a little more each day. Feeling comfortable in your own skin, making decisions with greater confidence, and knowing your worth isn't defined by achievement or someone else's approval.
Build Meaningful Relationships🫂
Experience the freedom of showing up as yourself instead of feeling like you have to earn acceptance. Create relationships built on trust, honesty, and genuine connection.
A Space Where You Don't Have to Have It All Together✌️
Give yourself permission to slow down, let your guard down, and be heard without judgment. Sometimes the most meaningful change begins simply by having a space where you don't have to carry everything alone.
Feel More Like Yourself Again ❤️
Reconnect with the values, strengths, and parts of yourself that may have been overshadowed by stress, expectations, or self-doubt. Move through life feeling more grounded, intentional, and at peace with who you are.
The way out is in.
-Thích Nhất Hạnh
If Any of This Feels Familiar
Loneliness and Isolation
You can be surrounded by friends or family and still feel like no one truly knows what you're carrying. Many Asian men learn to keep their struggles to themselves, making it difficult to feel truly seen or understood. Over time, that loneliness can leave you feeling disconnected from others and yourself.
Overthinking and Anxiety
Your mind rarely seems to slow down. Conversations replay in your head, decisions feel overwhelming, and even small mistakes can linger longer than you'd like. Living in a constant state of "what if" can make it difficult to feel present or trust yourself.
Cultural & Societal Expectations
Whether it's the expectation to achieve, provide, or always appear strong, many Asian men feel caught between who they're expected to be and who they truly are. Trying to meet everyone's expectations has you questioning if you're living life for yourself or for everyone else.
Pressure to Succeed
When you've spent much of your life striving to succeed, slowing down can feel uncomfortable, or even guilt-inducing. The pressure to perform, achieve, and never fall behind can be exhausting, giving you little room to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to build.
People Pleasing
You often find yourself putting other people's needs ahead of your own. Saying "yes" feels easier than risking disappointment, even when you're already overwhelmed. Over time, constantly putting yourself last can leave you feeling emotionally drained and unsure of what you need.
Feeling Like You're Not Enough
No matter how much you've accomplished, it still doesn't feel like enough. You question your abilities, compare yourself to others, and worry that eventually someone will realize you're not as capable as they think. It can be incredibly lonely carrying that pressure while everyone else sees you as successful.
Recognizing these experiences is the first step toward creating change. You don't have to wait until things feel too heavy to seek support. A consultation is simply a chance to connect, ask questions, and explore whether working together feels right.
About Randy Mekdara, LPCC
As Asian men, many of us were taught to work hard, stay humble, and handle our struggles on our own. While these values can be strengths, they can also leave us feeling stressed, anxious, disconnected, or wondering if we're ever doing enough. I work with Asian men who are tired of overthinking, struggling with confidence, or feeling like no matter what they
accomplish, it's never quite enough.
I believe therapy isn't about fixing you, it's about helping you better understand yourself and reconnect with the parts of you that may have been pushed aside along the way. Using a culturally responsive, insight-oriented approach, I help clients navigate anxiety, self-worth, identity, relationships, and life transitions with greater clarity and confidence.
Together, we'll create a space where you can slow down, make sense of what you're carrying, and build a stronger sense of self that isn't dependent on achievement or other people's expectations.
If any part of this resonates with you, I welcome you to reach out. I'd be an honor to support you on your healing journey.
GOT QUESTIONS?
I've got anwers
That’s completely okay. Many people start without knowing what to expect. My job is to guide you through the process, help you feel comfortable, and move at a pace that feels right for you.
Yes. I am a fully online based therapy practice. I offer secure, confidential online therapy to anyone within California, so you can meet from the comfort of your own space no commute, no hassle.
Yes. Everything you share in therapy is kept private and confidential. The only exceptions are rare situations required by law, such as if there’s a risk of harm to yourself or others, or if a child, elder, or dependent adult is being abused. I’ll always explain these limits clearly so you understand exactly how your information is protected.
It depends on what you’re working through and what you hope to get out of therapy. Some people come for a few months to work on a specific issue, while others stay longer for deeper, ongoing work. We’ll check in regularly to make sure therapy is helping you move toward the change you want.
Sessions are $160 per session
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